I've been told by a few of my male friends (this one included) that I don't think like most women. I am either a unicorn (because they don't exist in nature) or a man. Apparently, I am more sexually driven than most women are, although I don't make stupid choices and run around town jumping into bed with every man I meet. In fact, in the past two years, I have only been with one man. I can't seem to find a man who wants a woman like me. I think I scare them.
At our core, men want to be dominant and women want to be submissive. It's how we're wired. I don't mean that men have to be assholes and women have to be doormats; there's compromise in all things. What I mean is that men need to step up to the plate a lot more than they have been.
This friend wrote a blog for men about how to be on a first date. Get there early. Stand when she comes into the room. Push in her chair. Talk about her. And if you feel the timing and chemistry are right, kiss her: gently at first and then more forcefully, pulling her hair a little and pinning her to the wall. That's what most women want, even if too many are too afraid to say it.
I'm not afraid. I know what I want. I want a true man who is confident, kind, and assertive. I want a man who is gentle yet knows how to read the signs. I want a man who appreciates a woman who has a strong mind yet will acquiescence in the right situations. Of course, I've been single for four years now and still haven't found that man. In fact, I don't think I've ever dated a man like that. Which is sad, really, not just for me but for all women. Where have the men gone?
*You may wonder why this man and I are not dating. Believe me, I have tried, but he doesn't want a relationship. I represent something much more than he is looking for. So instead of moving anywhere, we remain platonic friends.
