First Valentine's Day, Then....

Have you heard of Steak and a Blow Job Day? A friend of mine turned me onto it recently, and as I've started asking people about it, I'm surprised at how many people have heard of this unique observation. Naturally, the men who know of it outnumber the women.

There's even a website for this special day. The celebration is on March 14, exactly one month after Valentine's Day. And that's no accident. Since men are traditionally responsible for the romance factor on February 14, one month later, women get to return the favor. And even if you don't eat cow meat, you can still indulge; the friend who told me about this day enjoyed an ahi tuna steak before his wife fulfilled on the second half of the promise.

While I'm all for fun—and I agree this is a seriously fun idea—what I don't understand is why it would be necessary. As I told another friend who knew of this annual celebration, if I were in a relationship, all my guy would have to do is ask to receive a BJ. It's that just part of a healthy relationship? Of course, I'm sure the opposite argue could be that men should just show their love year round without need for hearts and flowers. (My guy friend said I'm in the minority here; most men are lucky to get one BJ a year, so they look forward to this opportunity.)

What do you think? Have you heard of this day? Would you celebrate it?

After the Love...Who Bounces Back Faster?

At a small dinner party with a few friends, we started talking about relationships. One of the men at the party said he thinks that women tend to bounce right into the next relationship after the previous one ends, whereas men stay single longer, lamenting about the one who got away.

This perplexed me. In my life, I've seen my exes get into new relationships much faster than I have, especially when love was involved. If I was in love, I took a good deal of time to get over and purge that man from my heart before stepping into something new. On the other side of the coin, the men have married within 1-2 years of our partnership ending. That seems pretty fast to me.

Of course, I do tend to approach the world of dating and relationships more from a male's perspective, so maybe that's where the difference lies in my experiences. But when I look at my friends' ins and outs of dating on Facebook, most jump pretty quickly—regardless of gender. So maybe it's just a human nature thing: We don't want to be alone.

What's your experience?